With today being #NationalWomensHealthAndFitnessDay and a frustrating experience I had on Monday, I’m going on a little bit of a rant. Not to call anyone out, but just to hopefully bring something to your attention. Please stop commenting on how skinny I am! Or how skinny ANYONE is for that matter…
First things first…
Yes, I’m a size 2. Yes, I have had two (large) babies and am still a size 2. Am I thankful? ABSOLUTELY. I want to get that out of the way up front. I know that many women would love to be my size and can’t. I’ve never had to watch what I eat and have always been thin. I am blessed with a great metabolism and am truly thankful for that. With all of that being said, I still feel “body shamed” sometimes. I feel like some…actually, a lot of…people think that commenting on how skinny I am is okay, just because it’s the on the opposite spectrum of those who are overweight. That just because they wouldn’t say, “You’re so overweight!” means that it’s okay to say, “You’re so skinny!”. Do either of these statements really need to be said? No.
Please stop commenting on how skinny I am!
I’ve heard it throughout my entire life and I’m tired of being compared to others. Being told that I’m “so skinny” makes me feel like you think I’m not a normal weight, which I actually am for my height. Just because you may like to be my size doesn’t mean it makes me feel good or better when you say it.
Please don’t tell me I need to eat, either. I EAT. Take me to a buffet and I’ll show you. The “You need to eat a cheeseburger!” comments drive me bonkers. Thankfully I don’t hear those much anymore, but still. I don’t eat fast food all that much anymore, but I used to down a Double Quarter-Pounder with Cheese meal PLUS a shake like it was nothing. And, I’ve tried to gain weight multiple times. It just doesn’t happen.
Being able to eat whatever I want whenever I want has been a blessing, for sure, but I’m also learning that it’s hindered me, too. I have a massive sweet tooth and have always just eaten whatever cake, candy, or ice cream I wanted. About five years ago I literally had four pieces of different pies on my plate after our family Thanksgiving meal. Can we say sugar rush?! Now that I’m trying to eat healthier and cut out all the added sugar and “junk”, I’m finding the cravings to be nuts. It’s very hard for me to say, “No!” to myself because I’ve never “had” to.
The moral of the story…
Please stop judging people by their weight and looks. Stop judging people period. Not all overweight people can lose the weight, and they aren’t all lazy. Not all skinny people starve themselves. In fact, a lot of them would actually probably like to gain some weight! If you wouldn’t comment on how overweight someone is, you shouldn’t do the opposite, either.
Have you ever felt body shamed or stereotyped? Hopefully not, but let’s discus! And please share this post via the buttons below so we can hopefully help stop some of the comments. Thanks!